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Author. Speaker. Storyteller. Wife and Dog Mom of Two.

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As a storyteller and shepherd at heart, I love to gather the spiritual nomads, the wanderers, the doubters, the seekers, and especially those who have been pushed to the margins of society and/or church and bring them into a place that feels like home. I’m a national speaker, coach, and educator supporting LGBTQ+ people as they navigate their coming out process, and educating others on the importance of full inclusion.

 

I’m the author of Refocusing My Family and Unashamed (the first coming-out guide for LGBTQ people of faith) and have a third book on the way. I'm also the creator and host of the Unashamed Love Collective~a beautiful and inclusive online community for LGBTQ+ people and allies.

Many people know me as the gay daughter of a 30-year executive at Focus on the Family. Just as you’d imagine, one defining moment of authenticity cost me everything. My experience propelled me into a world of social justice and my heart is to help others foster self-acceptance and reconcile their faith with their sexuality so that they can live and thrive in the world without shame. 

I believe stories are important and that they have the power to change both hearts and lives. At their core, I want people to love who they are. I also want them to know that they don’t have to change anything about their sexual orientation or gender identity in order to be fully loved and embraced by God.  Harmful theology is physically and spiritually killing LGBTQ+ people. That fact, coupled with my own personal experience of pain and loss, makes me passionate about the work that I do.  Prior to my advocacy work, I spent fifteen years in the field as a nationally certified Sign Language Interpreter. I am in an inter-racial, same-sex marriage to a non-binary POC immigrant, I am the dog mom of two, and I live with an invisible disability. These intersectional identities inspire me to actively fight for the equality, equity, and dignity of all people.
 

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My Story

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1984
1984

Baby me was born in Kalispell, MT.

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1987
1987

I win a county-wide talent competition at age 3 for my recitation of “The Moon Came Too.” My mom about has a heart attack from the shock.

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1988
1988

My dad starts working for Focus on the Family. Clearly Dobson and I hit it off from the start.

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1991
1991

I perform my first solo piano recital at age 7…music was in my blood.

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1993
1993

I begin acting in Adventures in Odyssey and meet Will Ryan (Eugene Meltsner).

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1997
1997

I rock the 90’s bangs and sign a Purity Pledge on my 13th birthday, vowing a chaste life of service to God until the day I marry my someday husband. Yikes.

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2001
2001

I graduate high school at age 16 – only a slight overachiever. 😉

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2005
2005

Did a Christian internship for a year ‘cuz it was a thing. Made it all the way to graduation without dating a boy…imagine that. (It was a legit rule.)

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2007
2007

Fell in love with a girl…but couldn’t tell anybody. The inner wrestling began.

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2009
2009

Adopted my first puppy. Named her Half Pint. Fell completely in love.

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April 2012
April 2012

I came out as gay and lost almost everyone I knew in the weeks and months to come. My world grew very dark.

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2012
2012

Half Pint gets me through the hardest days of my life and helps me avoid the suicidal feelings and self harm I was battling behind the smile.

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2013
2013

Half Pint becomes a service dog to help me navigate life with PTSD.

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2013
2013

I meet and fall in love with Clara and life gets a whole lot better.

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June 2014
June 2014

I marry Clara, the love of my life, and officially become a Cantorna.

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2015
2015

We buy our first home and begin life together with our little family.

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2015
2015

We expand our family by another fur baby – Little Anne – and our love grows even wider.

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2017
2017

“Refocusing My Family” releases into the world.

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2017
2017

I begin speaking nationwide and sharing my story in order to bring hope to other LGBTQ people of faith.

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2018
2018

On tour…I can hardly stand the level of adorable.

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2019
2019

“Unashamed” releases and becomes the first coming-out guide for LGBTQ people of faith.

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2020
2020

The Unashamed Love Collective launches amid the COVID-19 pandemic.

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2020
2020

The love of the Cantorna Clan just keeps growing stronger and stronger. Love always wins.

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2021
2021

I continue to speak and share my story in order to give hope to LGBTQ people and educate others on the importance of full inclusion.

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